Blinded by the Rod

My full time career is a Certified Registered Nurse Anesthetist (CRNA) .. yeah I know it’s a mouth full.

My job is to provide anesthesia for patients undergoing surgical procedures. Most of the time you don’t remember this person, but that means we did a good job 🤪😜

As a CRNA, I see a lot of different procedures. One specific area I see a good bit of is surgery on the eye. We have a specialist that does operations specifically on the retina. The patients that come in will have anything from trauma, glaucoma related issues or retinal detachments.

With retinal detachments the patient will have a blind spot or possibly even temporary vision loss in that eye. I’m not gonna get into the technical side of all of that, but my point in taking you here is that these patients have a defect that causes them not to see things clearly. With this dysfunction, you wouldn’t see these patients trying to show someone what to do or rely on their vision to direct someone.

When your friends in trouble

Watching a friend or family member get entangled in sin is incredibly hard to observe. I want to go up and shake them and say “just stop, you’re killing yourself”… needless to say, I don’t recommend this 🤣

Calling someone out on sin is a delicate thing. It shouldn’t even be considered without much prayer (the Bible suggests fasting as well). There’s a reason Jesus tells us:

“Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye.” Matthew 7:5 NLT

Sin is blinding

As I read this, I immediately thought about physical vision issues because I “see “ it often. Ha.. see what I didn’t there 🤣

If I have a log in my eye, I am not seeing anything clearly. I would naturally not try and use my eye to do anything. I love this analogy that Jesus gives us because I can conceptualize it quite easily.

None of us are perfect. Everyone’s sin looks different. Historically the “real bad” sins make people stand out more. When we accept Jesus as our savior, there is a shift and a responsibility to aspire to have blameless perfect lives. We won’t, but we should strive to do that.

James tells us

“For the person who keeps all of the laws except one is as guilty as a person who has broken all of God’s laws. For the same God who said, “You must not commit adultery,” also said, “You must not murder.” So if you murder someone but do not commit adultery, you have still broken the law.”James 2:10-11 NLT

Just like someone with a physical eye hinderance wouldn’t use their sight to help, you shouldn’t use your sight alone to judge another christian. If you have a genuine concern for someone’s lifestyle, I urge you to commit to praying for that person, and not just once a week or when you see them partaking in what you consider wrong.


You’ll be absolutely astonished at what this will do.

You can disagree and still be friends

I have a very godly friend whom I love and respect and I wasn’t a fan of a certain activity this person was a part of. I decided to do some research and gather info while also praying about the situation. I was able to learn more, and through my prayer God told me to hang tight, he has a purpose.

You see, when you start praying for someone else’s supposed shortcomings, God will enlighten you of your own 🤭😳. I was given a peace and I grew tremendously through this exercise. Part of maturing as a Christian is gaining wisdom on when to speak and when not speak.

“But the wisdom from above is first of all pure. It is also peace loving, gentle at all times, and willing to yield to others. It is full of mercy and the fruit of good deeds. It shows no favoritism and is always sincere.” James 3:17 NLT

Something I find important to mention is a verse in romans

“But God showed his great love for us by sending Christ to die for us while we were still sinners.” Romans 5:8 NLT


Sinner, Invite your sinner friends to church. Pray over their shortcomings and love them through it. We all have been there and it’s what we can’t physically see that matters. God knows all the inner struggles we don’t and that’s why praying opens our eyes.

“Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love covers a multitude of sins.”1 Peter 4:8 NLT

I’ll end with a laugh

When my husband and I were dating, I would do random things that he would laugh at or I’m sure In his mind thought “why on earth is she doing that?”

One day I did something obviously dumb (I don’t even remember what it was, but he probably does) and he looked at me, hugged me and sang “I’m gonna love you through it” y’all know the song by Martina McBride.

We laughed and to this day he still says it but now it’s usually to our three year old drama queen who gonna need a lot of “loving through it”

Why is this important? He could have chosen an eye roll, negative comment, silence or some other petty action, but he didn’t. He chose love. I didn’t feel stupid and I immediately felt cherished.

Love always wins. Pray for that person who you think needs to change, but… watch out for the change He makes in you.

8 Replies to “Blinded by the Rod”

  1. Oh goodness!!! I needed to read this today Emily! Danny and I are trying to love a family member through some issues. We’ve prayed, we’ve wept and we’ve asked others to pray. Praying someone through it is hard but so worth it and what we are supposed to do.

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