Christian Confrontation

Confrontation – my literal nemesis. I hate it. I avoid it all cost. In fact I makes excuse after excuse why is not necessary.

The Bible disagrees with me (ugh 🤪)

I saw a pretty well known Christian influencer post something that stopped me in my steps. Before I dive in I want to preface it with how I handled disagreeing with heavy doctrine before today….

I didn’t 😳

Heavy doctrine Emily definition – those real touchy church topics (Free will, rapture, baptism, book of revelation… etc)

Ya feel me?

I’m not gonna lie. If someone believes something that I personally think is whack-a-doodle then I have a tendency to nod and say “interesting” I then make a mental note to never discuss that topic again with said person.

Today I was convicted. Shame on me.

God calls us to be bold in our faith. My natural tendency to be a peacemaker makes me steer away from those types of conversation in an effort to prevent severing a relationship or making things super awkward.

Jesus was a peacemaker, but he wasn’t evasive nor did he hide behind preventing conflict. He was crucified for “bucking the system” for crying out loud.

This person I mentioned has a large platform of followers and essentially lives in a glass house so therefore; who she aligns herself with is important.

But isn’t that the same for all of us? Even if we cause one person to stumble we have hindered the kingdom… wow!


How do we handle blatant mistruths

I don’t have the full answer to this but I can tell you how I’m gonna start pivoting.

This particular influencer contacted the person she found out believed something very out of line with her beliefs. She gave her an opportunity to explain.


“If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother.” Matthew 18:15 ESV

“But someone having different beliefs isn’t a sin”

Well yesterday I would have agreed.

But today

Today I’ve been convicted of not holding the Bible as the ONE and ONLY TRUTH.

If the belief is not biblical then my friend, that is a sin. It is a sin of idolatry. Worshipping any other God is a sin.

Now I’m not sure if this particular person went on to step two but according to Jesus’s words in Matthew step 2 is

“But if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, that every charge may be established by the evidence of two or three witnesses.” Matthew 18:16 ESV

Confront the issue with one or two others.

How many of you have a problem with a friend and you immediately skip step 1 and go to another friend???

Y’all that’s wrong. (Don’t get mad at me! Im preaching to myself)

We should pray to our father and confront the issue with that person alone first THEN go to other believers to have them witness.

Step 3

“If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church. And if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector.” Matthew 18:17 ESV

This one right here… strikes fear and anxiety in my heart. This one gives me hives thinking about having to separate from someone I love.

“Let him be to you as a gentile and a tax collector”

I’m not sure if you know what that meant back then but basically it meant you treat them like your enemy. Like someone most despised.

Living for the king is not easy. He never said it would be but he does tell us He would be there!

“Truly, I say to you, whatever you bind on earth shall be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven. Again I say to you, if two of you agree on earth about anything they ask, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven. For where two or three are gathered in my name, there am I among them.” Matthew 18:18-20 ESV

When we confront someone in the name of Christ with others. He is with us. He is there giving us wisdom and words to battle evil spirits.

Remember the importance of grace. Someone who has those “whack-a-doodle” beliefs have been led astray. We’ve all been there. We must approach those with love and grace. We must bring a spirit of love and truth.

We are the hands and feet.

Make sure our actions match our faith.

If you can’t approach in love then pray for wisdom and for someone who can address it in love.

Be bold. Show grace.

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