Sucker Punch

Have you ever been so spitting mad you could punch someone?

If you have a job, you’re a parent, a son/daughter, a sibling or a spouse/significant other I’m betting that’s a firm yes.

How do you handle that anger?

The Bible has a lot of verses about anger. One verse that convicted me today is this one

“Sensible people control their temper; they earn respect by overlooking wrongs.” Proverbs 19:11 NLT

OUCH

I found myself real mad this week and for some reason I had a real hard time controlling it. I failed at overlooking the wrong. I’m usually a pretty passive person and can let things roll, but it got the best of me this time.

It’s truly not important why I got angry, but how I handled it, is. I let my anger cause me to be rude to innocent bystanders. Ephesians 4:26 NLT tells us

“And don’t sin by letting anger control you.” Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry,”

It’s not wrong to be angry, but it is wrong to allow the anger to permeate your whole mood and sin because of the rage.

I’ve spoken about anger before, but this weeks bout with it convicted me in a deeper way. This time my anger spilled over to the people around me and I’m truly frustrated that I didn’t stop the cycle of anger.

If you’ve ever watched the tv series How I met your mother, there is an episode where Barney explains his theoretical cycle of yelling. Of course it’s all surrounded in humor, but there is some truth in the theory.

Basically the circle of yelling, in a nut shell

your boss’s boss yells at them

they yell at you

you yell at significant other,

they yell at their coworkers

who then continues the circle/cycle of yelling.

We as Christians have to break the circle. If we are strong enough, we will get yelled at and not yell at someone else. I’m not saying you won’t get mad and want to throw a French fry box across the room. When you get mad, find a silent spot, hash out your anger alone until you can safely enter human contact without taking out your anger on an innocent bystander.

In genesis we read about Joseph who at the age of 17 was sold into slavery by his brothers. He spent 22 years with Egyptians before he found himself standing in front of the same brothers who sold him. Genesis 43:30-31 NLT says

“Then Joseph hurried from the room because he was overcome with emotion for his brother. He went into his private room, where he broke down and wept. After washing his face, he came back out, keeping himself under control. Then he ordered, “Bring out the food!”

This was how Joseph responded after that length of time. I don’t feel like his emotion was anger, seemed more like sadness from years lost. How we handle our emotions can be a testimony.

Maybe the emotion your dealing with isn’t anger. Maybe it’s fear, sadness, guilt, or apathy. How we manage these overwhelming emotions can be a vessel to lead others to Christ. The techniques I used this week, I don’t recommend 🤣🤣. Slamming doors loudly, huffing and puffing, wearing an obvious mad face. Quite childish to be honest and after I got over myself I had to send apologies.

We can shine the light of Jesus even when we are emotional.

Take a self assessment and really think about how you respond when you are met with overwhelming emotion.

Do your emotional actions glorify God?

Will other people look and say “man how on earth did she stay so calm? I want what he/she has.”

“People with understanding control their anger; a hot temper shows great foolishness.”Proverbs 14:29 NLT