Blame Game

This week I came home from work and found my cat locked in my room. I immediately got slapped in the face with an awful smell that I knew was cat 💩. I then went on the journey to find said 💩. After a few rounds in the room I found it. Right smack dab in the middle of my bed 🤢🤢.

Y’all!

I was so incredibly disgusted. I wanted to throw the cat in the yard and never let him or his brother back in. I immediately wanted to figure out how this occurred. After a conversation with my husband I found out that my daughter had shut the door and He was unaware the cat was in there.

Have you had moments where a bad situation was obviously not your fault, and you would move heaven and earth to find who was responsible for your misfortune?

Or maybe the incident was entirely your fault and the blame you put on yourself haunts you.

Either instance playing the blame game can be exhausting and in the end, leads you to despair.

I can’t help but think about 👑 David. David was in numerous situations where his woes were caused by others and other times he brought it on himself.

He lived in caves and on the run because King Saul was so jealous of him and feared losing his throne.

He lost his child because of the affair he had with Bathsheba.

The beautiful thing about King David was how he recovered from these heartaches. In 1 Samuel 24 we read about David hiding in a cave with his soldiers. King Saul was hunting him and wound up in the same cave where he went to relieve himself. David had the perfect opportunity to sneak up on Saul and end his running. I’m fax this soldiers tried to convince him to take revenge.

”Now’s your opportunity!” David’s men whispered to him. “Today the Lord is telling you, ‘I will certainly put your enemy into your power, to do with as you wish.’” So David crept forward and cut off a piece of the hem of Saul’s robe.

If you read 1 Samuel 24:4-13 you’ll see David pass up on this opportunity and instead extended grace and respect towards the king.

Would you have the courage to refrain?

Most of you know the story of David and Bathsheba. David saw her bathing, David wanted her, so he sent for her. The affair led to the murder of Uriah who was truly innocent in the situation.

You can read in 2 Samuel 12:1-4 where Nathan confronts David with a story that causes David to confess his guilt. Fulfilling Nathan’s prophecy, an illness fell upon the child of David and Bathsheba (Uriah’s wife). David fasted, grieved and begged for healing, but the child passed. After the child dies the Bible tells us

“Then David got up from the ground, washed himself, put on lotions, and changed his clothes. He went to the Tabernacle and worshiped the Lord. After that, he returned to the palace and was served food and ate.” 2 Samuel 12:20 NLT

His first reaction was to worship. Of course this did not come across well to onlookers, in fact they asked him why he responded this way in 2 Samuel 12:22-23 NLT

“I fasted and wept while the child was alive, for I said, ‘Perhaps the Lord will be gracious to me and let the child live.’ But why should I fast when he is dead? Can I bring him back again? I will go to him one day, but he cannot return to me.””

Wow. The wisdom here is my take home for those who are spending their life blaming others or themselves.

In both of these stories there is someone to blame. First was Saul and second was David himself. In both scenarios David took the high road. Like David we all have Sauls in our life that seemingly do everything they can to steal our joy. On the other hand we make decisions that end up costing us big later on.

How do you handle your Sauls?

How do you handle your own faults?

Do you show grace to your enemies and worship God after you experience the consequences of your own mistakes? More importantly do you admit when your guilty?

David wasn’t perfect but yet he was named a man after Gods own heart. God doesn’t want perfection, he wants our worship and praise.

Forgive your enemies and fall on your knees when you fail. Stop pointing fingers and blaming others. More times than not the person to blame is struggling with their own personal struggles. Or in my case, a three year old who is completely unaware of what she did.

Clean up the mess, take a breather and move on. Wallowing in the misery won’t make your day any better, but finding the joy in the situation will.