Are you being the future spouse you’re praying for?

I laughed pretty hard at this because it is so true. We ask God for things and then turn our nose up because it doesn’t fit one specific thing we want!

I became a Christian around the 5th grade and I remember about 6 or 7th grade being taught to pray for my future spouse. Looking back now I’m amazed that it was taught so young. I think it is great but overtime I quit doing that.

The act of continually praying for him wasn’t reinforced.

Somewhere in all my journals I wrote out what I wanted my future spouse to be like. I specifically remember the qualities all being physical attributes. Of course at that age we don’t have even the slightest idea of what we want or need in a spouse.

The truth is- even as adults we rarely know what we want much less what we need.

While being specific and praying about what you want in a spouse is very important, you must also ask God to help you have Godly attributes as well.

First and foremost you need a God fearing man/woman who knows Jesus. One that gets all their wisdom from the Bible.

“For the believing wife brings holiness to her marriage, and the believing husband brings holiness to his marriage. Otherwise, your children would not be holy, but now they are holy.” 1 Corinthians 7:14 NLT

I know every woman on here saying “I need a man who does laundry and cleans”

Men we all know what you thinking 🤣😆

While those physical attributes are important they are not the root of what makes a good spouse.

While you’re praying for that future spouse you need to be praying and asking God to help you be a good future spouse.

I’m sure your like 🤔”emily how on earth can I know how to be a good spouse when I’m not married?”

What you do prior to meeting your spouse matters. How you conduct your life matters. When you get married your spouse takes on your debt and your past mistakes. While we can’t live in the past, the past is what shaped us and effects how we handle daily life.

“and the two are united into one.’ Since they are no longer two but one,” Mark 10:8 NLT

I had one of my mentors tell me one time

“well I prayed for my children’s future spouse but I didn’t get specific and ask they find it on the first try”

She can laugh about it now but can’t you see how that one little detail matters?

List those physical attributes but also list the day to day attributes.

Someone who is slow to anger and quick to pray

Someone who will be present in the raising of your future children.





Pure hearted

Also ask yourself

Am I a desirable person to be around?

Do I enhance the people around me or bring them down.

Before you get too salty with me. Really dig deep and self-analyze.

Some of you praying for a future spouse have never been married, some divorced, some widowed and some heart broken because you were so close but never got to say “I Do”.

Whatever your scenario may be you must pray for the person you’ve never met or thought about marrying. (I say that because sometimes your future is right in front of you, but your too blinded to see it)

I urged you pray for yourself. Ask God to show you your weaknesses and strengths. How else will know the attributes you’re looking for.

“You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God.” 1 Peter 3:4 NLT

Need some help how to get started?

Women, proverbs 31 is a great start followed by Ephesians and James

Men- Ephesians and James are good start.

Be what you want in a companion, ask God for a spouse that complements your strengths and accepts your weaknesses.

Pray for their current life and pray they seek the Lord in all their decisions.