Drop the Rock

I had myself a moment this week!

I got all worked up and mad at my husband one morning because I felt entitled to more help as he was still laying in bed. I slammed doors 🚪 and every grumble I got from my three year old just fueled my anger. The baby was super congested and I had to stop and take extra care to make sure her little nasal passages were clear. Had to literally strip the red headed sass pot and dress her all the while getting my stuff together for the day…. Feel sorry for me yet? Well don’t because I got a big ol slap in the face when I got in my car after slamming about three doors attempting to get his attention.

If I stopped there you all would be infuriated at my man and think he was an awful husband who never helped me out. Which is OH SO FAR from the truth. You see you aren’t seeing his side of the story. When I got in my car God quickly told me to chill out. How do I know it was God? Because the devil would have whispered things like…”you deserve better, you should yell at him and prove your point” instead it was “Emily, today is his late day. He has a long day ahead of him and you’re doing fine without his help right now… I’ve got you” talk about a wake up call.

Sound familiar to anyone? I’m so glad I chilled out because I later found out he only slept two hours the night before 😳.. again THANK YOU JESUS.

In Jennie Allen’s, Get out of your head study, she talks about our minds and how quickly our thoughts can give way to negative spirals. It only takes ten minutes for our minds to build pathways of negativity. She does a much better job of explaining that, but I think you can see where I’m going. I was heading for a pretty bad spiral that would have made way for an awful day full of arguing and self deprecating behavior. That soft voice of my heavenly Father changed it all. I immediately softened my attitude and thanked God for reigning me in.

Because I made that shift, the obstacles I faced later that day were easy to handle and I didn’t have a negative attitude about it. I find it important to point out that more times than not, I make the mistake of letting the anger fester and it brings on unnecessary turmoil throughout the day. What can I say 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’m a work in progress and praise the Lord I get second chances.

Later that day, I watched a TikTok and the author, Pastor Paul, seemed to be a pretty cool dood. There was apparently a ruckus over a famous Christian artist that said some things that weren’t “cool” for lack of a better word. The Pastor picked up a stone and was about to lay into the artist and then he did something so cool. He put the stone down. You all know the verse “let anyone without blame cast the first stone”

You see, we aren’t perfect. None of us are. We are dirty rotten sinners and we do not have a right to judge a fellow Christians life choices. We are instructed to love. It’s like what my mama said when I was little “worry about yourself” (I was quite the little Miss bossy pants).

Brother, sister… worry about yourself.

How do these two stories tie together? Let’s look at James chapter 1. I’m currently going through another Jennie Allen study “stuck” and how appropriate this week was labeled “mad”. I started my week out MAD!

Verse 19 instructs us to be slow to anger. It first says to be quick to listen and slow to speak. If I had said everything I wanted to I would have been in a much worse situation. I’m thankful our connect group at church has been studying James as well and those words have been fresh on my heart a while.

Sounds like I need to keep it fresh ALL THE TIME.

Pastor Paul from tik tok did a good job showing how important it is for us to take a pause before we cast a stone. He was mad that a fellow Christian (who was in the spotlight) did something so appalling… and ya know an important thing about that part? It is ok to be mad, just don’t sin in that anger. Stop and pray for that person and let that anger help you grow and possibly even give way for you to minister to someone who very well may need you.

When you read further in James chapter 1 vs 23-25 uses a mirror analogy

“For if you listen to the word and don’t obey, it is like glancing at your face in a mirror. You see yourself, walk away, and forget what you look like. But if you look carefully into the perfect law that sets you free, and if you do what it says and don’t forget what you heard, then God will bless you for doing it.”

I don’t know about you, but when I look in the mirror I surely don’t forget immediately. The image lingers and you remember what you look like. That is what the Word must be for Christians. The Word must be our identity and just like we remember our image we must remember the scripture and live it. When we do… oh my the blessings that unfold! That is when you will start to feel life filling the achy dry bones 🦴.

I’ve got an incredible husband and two healthy, beautiful daughters that are proof of His promise.

FYI- the hubby read this and approved before I posted 😉

Do you take pause before you speak? I challenge you to be intentional with all your words. What we say rings loud for a long time. You never know who may be listening and truly needs to hear and see Jesus in you.

On ramp




You remember when you were learning how to drive? Everything was a big deal. The car that just zoomed around you because let’s face it .. you were driving slow 🤣, bumper to bumper traffic, the narrow roads that you swear is not big enough for two vehicles and the infamous on ramp to the interstate. All of those things were terrifying to me as new driver, but I studied my drivers Ed book, practiced with a licensed driver and then Oct 4, 2002 I got my license. It may have been the 5th because I’m pretty sure a hurricane was in the gulf and delayed it but I digress. 

My point? Following Jesus can seem that daunting. We don’t say the sinners prayer and then BAM know how to live and how to share the gospel. It takes studying His word and practice. 

Paul tells us in Hebrews 3:14 “For if we are faithful to the end, trusting God just as firmly as when we first believed, we will share in all that belongs to Christ.”

Once you get into a natural routine it all comes easier just like driving got easier. Before long I was the car zooming around the slow poke drivers Ed car. The same goes with your own personal ministry. Before long you could be leading women, or maybe being asked to decorate the entire church for an event… whatever your calling is… you have to prepare and foster it. Im still over here with my spiritual learners permit. The scared part of me thinks I’ll never be able to master living for Jesus, but the logical part of me knows that with lots of practice and Jesus I will master it. I will be able to lead people to christ just as easily as I learned how to take the interstate on ramp.

Are you stuck? Jesus is the answer. He is the only way to get out of the mire and muck that our lives so easily become. Call on Him and He will guide you.