You’re Not My Cup of Tea

Not everyone likes you.

Let it sink in.

Accept it.

Now, lets move past it. We can’t please everyone and I truly don’t think the Lord expects us to. We only need please Him. Not everyone likes you and there are people you don’t like either, but we must treat everyone with gentleness. The ones we don’t like and the ones who don’t like us.

But HOW?!?

If you are a parent you have to repeat this word quite frequently around that 1-2 year old. “Be gentle, sweet touches, soft touches, not so rough!”
This is usually my convo with my two year old in regards to our cat, but it helped me teach her how to be around humans too. I didn’t start by using the word gentle only, I would rub her head or face while saying “Gentle baby”. After a short time, she recognized what the word meant.

This technique is the same when learning how to be gentle in demeanor. You have to practice it first.

I love using my logo bible software. It helps me dig more into scripture and learn words better. One of my favorite commentaries is the Bible Knowledge Commentary (BKC). The BKC explains gentleness this way- “marks a person who is submissive to God’s Word and who is considerate of others when discipline is needed”

Let’s dig into some verses

“Therefore put away all filthiness and rampant wickedness and receive with meekness the implanted word, which is able to save your souls.”
‭‭James‬ ‭1‬:‭21‬ ‭ESV‬‬

Submissive to God’s Word
If you want to be able to exhibit gentleness then you have to examine yourself. If your full of wickedness, soft actions and reactions aren’t going to flow out of you.

“Brothers, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness. Keep watch on yourself, lest you too be tempted.”
‭‭Galatians‬ ‭6‬:‭1‬ ‭ESV‬‬

    Considerate When Discipline is needed

Now I am no expert of “calling people out”, but I am pretty sure most of us can recognize the people who do it all wrong. This happens mainly because we are uncomfortable, hate confrontation, and approach in the wrong spirit.

It is biblical to assist your fellow Christian in restoration. With that being said; don’t approach another Christian in the spirit of helping them if you aren’t on your knees every single day seeking Gods wisdom.
Don’t approach without first searching the word for wisdom.
Don’t approach if you feel that heavy feeling of unrest.
Don’t approach until you have prayed for that person extensively and asked for God to soften their heart.
Approach when you feel unexplainable peace, and the words just seem to appear in your mind.

“And the Lords’s servant must not be quarrelsome but kind to everyone, able to teach, patiently enduring evil, correcting his opponents with gentleness. God may perhaps grant them repentance leading to a knowledge of the truth, and they may come to their senses and escape from the snare of the devil, after being captured by him to do his will.
‭‭2 Timothy‬ ‭2‬:‭24-26ESV‬‬

Escaping the Devil’s snare

    I love how Paul says “opponent” here. It brings us back to not being everyone’s cup of tea. Sometimes the people who we see as an opponent can end up being our best friends in Jesus. The only way to move past the feeling of opposition is to start with self assessment, praying, approaching them and then watching faithfully as God turns their heart. The verse doesn’t say “and they will” it says “they may”. There is no guarantee your gentleness will turn their heart, but I do know each time you practice gentleness it gets easier. The first person may not come around, but before long you’ll see the fruits of your fruit.

    Are you a gentle person? I love the old saying “If you can’t say something nice, then don’t say anything at all”. Discretion is important and you learn it by asking for it. If you want to gentleness, you will have to work at it. Ive got some more verses for you to chew on.

    “But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, open to reason, full of mercy and good fruits, impartial and sincere” James 3:17

    “Servants, be subject to your masters with all respect, not only to the good and gentle but also to the unjust” 1 Peter 2:18

    “with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love” Eph 4:2

    “but in your hearts honor Christ the Lord as holy, always being prepared to make a defense to anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope that is in you; yet do it with gentleness and respect” 1 Peter 3:15

    Dear Lord,
    We live in a rough world. Gentleness is not a fruit that spills out of a lot of people. Lord I pray that we can lay down our spirit of anger, distrust, dislike and trade it for gentleness. As we are coming closer to Christmas I pray we can be reminded of what we are celebrating. I pray you would renew our joy of your 1st coming and look forward with comfort and faith of your second coming. We love you Lord.
    In Jesus Name

    Did you miss the last post on faithfulness? Check it out here>> Help My Unbelief

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